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Why is divorce different for older women?
Older women’s losses are greater. They have been married the longest and take the hardest hit both financially and emotionally. Losing both your happy memories of times past, plus the expectation of a secure, comfortable future is devastating, especially when you lack the resilience of youth to help you bounce back. It’s harder to start over at an age when you’re supposed to be looking forward to winding down, not gearing up. Older women face discrimination both in the job and dating worlds.
In He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40 (GPP Life, an imprint of Globe Pequot Press; April, 2009; $16.95; Paperback), author Erica Manfred shares her own divorce experience, as well as the advice of experts, including a foreword by licensed psychotherapist Tina Tessina Ph.D., with specific sections tailored to women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s.
This is the first book about divorce to address women of the baby boom generation who are getting divorced in record numbers. In any given year about 250,000 women over 50 get divorced.
At age 58, after 18 years of marriage, Erica Manfred, was dumped for a younger woman. She was lucky enough to have a recently divorced girlfriend to scrape her off the floor, drag her out to get her hair colored, and teach her Divorce 101. Now she has become the been-there-done-that girlfriend who survived the divorce from hell and is an expert on what older women need to know about divorce. In this insightful, but breezily written and entertaining book, she shares what she’s learned, both from her own experience, other divorcées and recognized experts in the field.
He’s History; You’re Not covers everything from surviving the first year, to finding the right lawyer, to finding a new career, to dealing with your adult kids, to living alone and liking it, to internet dating, to whether or not to forgive, to dealing with betrayal, and finally how to move on.