November 13, 2008 – 3:02 pm
So what’s best? Revenge or forgiveness? I am publishing this book which is pretty graphic about my marriage and about my cheating ex and his current wife (his affair partner). My daughter will read it someday. In the meantime they have it hanging over them-they know they will have to answer to her about what [...]
November 10, 2008 – 8:29 pm
So I was complaining to my chiropracter today that the only man in my life was my little doggie Shadow who accompanies me everywhere. I told him I’d just about given up on men.
He’s a good looking guy in his 50s and instead of coming up with some platitude like “it’s never too late,” he [...]
November 8, 2008 – 11:37 pm
I just found this in the wrong folder on my computer. I found it really moving since I’d forgotten about some of these feelings. If you remember, Retrouvaille is a marriage encounter workshop where we went to “try to save our marriage.” In reality my ex was trying to feel less guilty about cheating on [...]
November 7, 2008 – 1:47 am
Just like the robotic race of Borg from Star Trek, who invade people’s minds and take them over turning them into group-mind, my daughter’s stepmother is trying to turn her into their version of the Borg.
In the stepmother’s universe children DO NOT read books for teenagers that might have any questionable language or [...]
November 2, 2008 – 11:20 pm
I finally went to my friend Avigail’s Tarot class Saturday afternoon. It’s run by Rachel Pollack, who has written about 20 books and is one the most well known tarot experts in the country (along with Mary Greer). They were kind enough to do a spread for me about my daughter—with these really cool transparent [...]
October 31, 2008 – 9:04 pm
This is the first Halloween since she was born that I didn’t spend with my daughter. I have a clause in our custody agreement that I get her for the Halloween parade in our town. She and I had been going every year until this year when our relationship had deteriorated to the point that [...]
October 25, 2008 – 4:25 pm
Thursday night I had a run in with another local writer that taught me a much-needed lesson. I’d met her at a writing workshop and invited her to speak at a writers group I run at Barnes and Noble, but only a few people showed up. I emailed her the next day to apologize for [...]
October 23, 2008 – 4:04 pm
I’ve decided to quit the EFT therapy because it was just too damned dumb. I couldn’t face sitting there rubbing my chest one more time saying “I love and accept myself even though I hate myself.” Well not exactly those words but you get the picture. The therapist was very sympathetic but she seems to [...]
October 22, 2008 – 3:05 pm
I got this question from a divorcee who was dumped for a younger woman after 25 years of marriage. She wanted to know if these relationships stick or break up. The traditional wisdom is that they usually break up, but my husband married his affair partner and many of the women I interviewed for my [...]
October 19, 2008 – 8:40 pm
I spent the weekend in New York City seeing old friends, including a reunion with Bob, a very old friend I hadn’t seen in more than ten years. I’ve been on a mission lately to reunite with old friends, most of whom I lost in one fell swoop after my marriage. My ex [...]