http://heshistory.com/2009/02/what-kind-of-compromises-should-you-make-to-find-a-relationship/ Surviving Divorce After 40 Sun, 13 Jun 2010 13:48:37 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 http://heshistory.com/2009/02/what-kind-of-compromises-should-you-make-to-find-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Kate Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:58:54 +0000 http://heshistory.com/?p=143#comment-102 Erica, although you did cite one instance where an inflammatory email was effective,I side with your co-leader. I wrote many long letters and emails I did not send to my ex. (Okay, I confess I did send one or two notes at the beginning.) As my shrink noted, why give the ex the satisfaction of knowing you're still angry and upset? To send or not send has nothing to do with new agey anything; it is about impulse control. It's easy to hit send in a fit of anger, harder to restrain yourself. Kate Erica, although you did cite one instance
where an inflammatory email was effective,I side with your co-leader. I wrote many long letters and emails I did not send to my ex.
(Okay, I confess I did send one or two notes at
the beginning.) As my shrink noted, why give the ex the satisfaction of knowing you’re
still angry and upset? To send or not send
has nothing to do with new agey anything; it
is about impulse control. It’s easy to hit send in a fit of anger, harder to restrain yourself.
Kate

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