I have no idea if anything will come of this, but I agreed to go out with someone who sounds totally inappropriate for me. He’s a working class, blue collar guy, works in a body shop, doesn’t read, hasn‘t got great grammar. I’m a writer, intellectual, OK I admit it, I’m a snob. I haven’t met him yet, he wrote me on Match.com and has been pursuing. We talked on the phone and he sounds like a nice guy, but I wonder if we have anything in common. He did say he likes museums. From his photo he seems nice looking—6 years younger than me. He suggested we just meet for a drink, he offered to buy me dinner, he acknowledged as well that we don’t have much in common but wanted to meet. He’s lonely. I agreed to meet him—what have I got to lose? I’ll let you know how it goes. I have fantasies of a companion, but if I can’t really talk to someone how much companionship is there? On the other hand he sounds very sweet and that would be nice. We have a date on Thursday for a drink.
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Erica, although you did cite one instance
where an inflammatory email was effective,I side with your co-leader. I wrote many long letters and emails I did not send to my ex.
(Okay, I confess I did send one or two notes at
the beginning.) As my shrink noted, why give the ex the satisfaction of knowing you’re
still angry and upset? To send or not send
has nothing to do with new agey anything; it
is about impulse control. It’s easy to hit send in a fit of anger, harder to restrain yourself.
Kate