So I went out with blue collar guy, twice in fact. The first time I met him for a drink at a local bar/restaurant where he bought me dinner. He’s nice looking, and the evening was pleasant. He talked, and talked – a lot – didn’t ask much about me and his conversation wasn’t exactly scintillating, but it wasn’t a long evening so it was kind of relaxing—drink and food made it pleasant. He’s one of these guys who goes into excruciating detail about everything, whether or not you have any interest in it–he doesn’t pay attention to whether you’re interested. He has a very sweet side—loves animals and tries to rescue them. On the other hand he believes in “creationalism” Oy vey. And he goes to a “nutritionalist” and says “ain’t” a lot.
The next time I invited him to a play, which he enjoyed a lot. He’s not dumb—he does huge crossword puzzles which would be beyond me and enjoyed the theatrical experience and even had a good insight into the play. But I couldn’t get much of a discussion going about it.
He told me his marriage broke up because his wife was bi polar. I’ve noticed in my internet dating adventures that guys all say their ex wives were crazy and that’s why their marriages broke up. I tend to think the guys drove their wives crazy. There’s a question I always ask because the answer is usually interesting and surprising. “What would your wife say if someone asked her why the marriage broke up”? I thought he’d say because he didn’t make enough money or was out of work or something like that. He said “lack of communication.” Aha. Not surprising. After a while I’d want to throttle him myself for not listening to me. He drones on and on and after a while it’s like a soporific—I wanted to go to sleep.
Wierdly enough I like his emails. They’re lively, authentic and interesting if misspelled. Maybe we can just email each other.
Is it possible someone can change this late in life? He’s 60. Could he learn to listen or is it too late?