So what’s best? Revenge or forgiveness? I am publishing this book which is pretty graphic about my marriage and about my cheating ex and his current wife (his affair partner). My daughter will read it someday. In the meantime they have it hanging over them-they know they will have to answer to her about what they did eventually. Somehow this seems just punishment to me. Undoubtedly people in our small community will read it as well and gossip. They are very private people and this will embarrass the hell out of them. But it’s knowing that my daughter will someday turn around and say, “is this true? Did you treat mommy like this?” and they will have to own up, or lie. It’s hard to lie about something in black and white that’s been published. Not self-published, but published by a reputable publisher and vetted by a lawyer
As for forgiveness, I would like to forgive them but so far haven’t made any headway. I know I would feel better if I could, but have no idea how to manage it, considering the conflict, and their turning my daughter against me. I believe they’re trying to stop badmouthing me because her shrink has read them the riot act, but there’s still nasty stuff going on, like reading a book I gave her for “inappropriate content.”
How do I forgive these two? Is it possible? Should I try? They have never expressed remorse–the opposite in fact.