I saw Alec Baldwin on TV today talking about parental alienation. I’m so glad this issue is getting publicized. Baldwin talks about how the Family Court System is totally corrupt, they don’t enforce visitation orders, they don’t recognize parental alienation as a problem.
I know little about how the court system deals with this issue because I haven’t gone to court over parental alienation because it wouldn’t help. My situation is different but the result is the same–my daughter has been turned against me and doesn’t want to visit with me because she’s convinced she isn’t “safe” with me. I found it very interesting that the issue of a child being “safe” with the other parent is one that the alienating parent generally tries to use in court. Once a child has been turned against you there’s really very little you can do, in court or out. I can’t force her to visit me, considering her emotional disturbance that would be harmful to her. All I can do is suck it up for her sake.
I’m lucky shes in a special ed program in school and has a therapist who is supportive to me and feels she should be visiting with me. I’m seeing her with her therapist tomorrow and hope there’s a way I can see her without her stepmother undermining our visits.
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It sounds to me like your child IS alienated.
Parent Alienation IS CHILD ABUSE on the part of the alienator!
My children have been alienated from me as well.
I have done EXTENSIVE research on how loving children can learn to hate and not want to visit one loving parent after a divorce and I’ll tell you this..
Don’t stay on the path that you are on..research Parent Alienation.. enmeshed dysfunctional relationships..dysfunctional families.. and so on..
If you stay on the path you are on right now ..it may become harder to re-connect with your child later in life.. when she is old enough to understand what happened.
As an alienated mother and an adult child of alienation myself.. I can tell you my dad didn’t try to contact me .. he probably had no idea what was going on or that he was an alienated father..
Heck I didn’t know I was an alienated adult child until I began getting deeper into my research on how it was possible for my children to APPEAR to hate me after the divorce and their fathers kidnapping of them.
I thought the love we had would be enough to counter their fathers bad mouthing..
Sadly it wasn’t… and it’s taken me a long time to work it all out.
Hang in there!